incarcerating child-support debtors without the benefit of counsel

In South Carlina in late 1995, Michael D. Turner had consensual sex of reproductive type with Rebecca L. Price.  He was 18 years old; she, 16 years old.  They were not married, nor did they have any other legal relational status.  In 2003, a South Carolina court set a weekly sum that it ordered Turner to pay to Price, who by that time had married another man whose last name was Rogers.[1]  Without another court order, Turner was required to pay this sum weekly until the year 2014.

Marriage or other legal relational status is irrelevant to these payments.  Under South Carolina law and the law of every other U.S. state, a man need not take any action other than having sex of reproductive type to be subject to at least eighteen years of state-determined weekly payments to a woman or to the state.[2]  Such payments legally regulate sexuality, including legally imposing unplanned parenthood on men.  State laws and state agencies that collect these payments call them “child support payments.”  They might more accurately be called “sex payments.”[3]  In the U.S. in 2007, 4.9 million parents received such payments.  Those payments totaled $24.9 billion.[4]

Since 2003, Turner has been jailed six times for failing to make his court-ordered sex payments.  In 2004, he was jailed once for a day, and eight months later, for two days.  About a year later, he was incarcerated for about four and half months.  In 2008, he was jailed for about eight months.  In 2009, he was jailed for three months.  In 2010, he was again jailed.  Turner is scheduled to appear on May 4, 2011, once again in civil court for sex-payment arrears.  He is likely then to be jailed a seventh time for sex-payment debt.[5]  At his civil contempt hearing in April, 2009, Turner explained to the court why he couldn’t make his sex payments:

I just got out [of jail] – I done a year ’07 to ’08, got out for like four months. I’ve tried to find a job. I, honest to God, have tried this time. There’s no work out there hardly for carpenters. I couldn’t find anything, so I been putting in applications in grocery stores, you name it. I’ve got in applications. I have tried. I’ve honestly tried this time. That’s all I can say. I can’t find no work [6]

Spells of imprisonment hurts persons’ subsequent ability to get a job and earn income legally.  Moreover, under typical state law, sex payments continue to accumulate, with interest (12% in South Carolina), while the sex-payment debtor is imprisoned for non-payment.  Hence, once imprisonment spells reach several months, serial imprisonment for sex-payment debt isn’t surprising.[7]

Only fragmentary data are available on the national magnitude of imprisonment for sex-payment debt. The child-support literature is primarily concerned with how to establish biological paternity and increase child-support revenue collection.  Little systematically collected data considers penalties imposed on sex-payment debtors (“parents with child support arrears”).[8]  Because 91% of sex-payment orders (“child support orders”) have arrears due and sex-payment debtors with gross annual income of $10,000 or less account for 70% of total arrears, imposition of penalties for sex-payment debt undoubtedly are common.[9]  All U.S. states have laws providing for imprisonment for non-payment of sex payments.[10]  Actual imprisonment for sex-payment debt has been observed in many states.[11]  However, the structure of the U.S. public sphere generates little public concern about the U.S. level of imprisonment (which is extremely high relative to other high-income countries), encourages hostility to sex-payment debtors as persons who don’t support their children, and fosters fear of the demographic and fiscal implications of heterosexual male sexual freedom.  The extent of imprisonment for sex-payment debt isn’t a commonly discussed public issue.[12]

Across the U.S. on an average day, roughly 50,000 persons are in jail or in prison for sex-payment debt.  Sex-payment debtors spend shorter spells in (local) jails and longer spells in (state) prisons.  Sex-payment debtors can be imprisoned for civil contempt orders and on criminal sentences for sex payment debt.  They can also be in jail as a result of pre-hearing arrests.  With bench warrants often issued routinely for failure to appear at a child-support hearing, pre-hearing imprisonment is likely to be substantial.  Persons who are subject to a child-support arrest warrant or in jail under a child-support contempt order can also be in jail concurrently for other charges.  Case counts and imprisonment orders, which are a flow concept, translate into the average number of persons in jail, which is a stock concept, with considerable uncertainty.  Available data are complex and inconsistent, even when provided from official sources and in legal proceedings. Given available data, I consider the best estimates to be 40,000 persons in jail for sex-payment debt and 10,000 persons in prison for sex-payment debt.  These estimates have considerable margins of error.[13]  The actual total number might plausibly be between 25,000 and 90,000.  But that more than fifteen thousand persons are in jail or in prison every day across the U.S. for sex-payment debts cannot be reasonably doubted.

On March 23, 2011, the U.S. Supreme Court will hear arguments about whether Michael Turner had a right to appointed counsel as an indigent defendant in the sex-payment court hearing that resulted in his imprisonment for about eight months for sex-payment debt (“child support arrears”).  Many important representatives and organizations have filed friend-of-the-court (amicus) briefs with much interesting factual material.  The underlying legal and policy issues are huge.

I predict that the Supreme Court will find that it lacks jurisdiction to review the matter.

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Read more:

Case filings for Turner v. Rogers, U.S. Supreme Court Docket 10-10

Supporting data: national estimate of sex-payment imprisonment (Excel version); analysis of Patterson’s survey data on child-support detainees in South Carolina (Excel version).

D’Arcy L McGreer’s personal account of being jailed multiple times for child support arrears


[1] See Brief of Respondents, p. 8.  Turner and Price drifted apart soon after Price gave birth to a child in July, 1996. Id.  A civil judgment in an Oconee County, SC, court on May 21, 2003 has as one party Rebecca L. Rogers.  That indicates that Price had married and adopted a new surname by that date.  As noted above, marriage is irrelevant under the relevant law.  In 49% of payment cases with arrears, the parties were never married.  See Understanding Child Support Debt, p. 18.

Update: Ages at relevant sexual intercourse previously described above as “He was about 19 years old; she, about 17.”  Respondents Brief on Petition for Cert., p. 6, states: “Petitioner Michael Turner fathered B.L.P., the daughter of respondent Rebecca L. Rogers (née Price), in 1995, when petitioner was 18 and Rogers was 16.”  The context makes clear that “fathered” means Turner had sex of reproductive type and subsequent choices of Price and the state led to a child’s birth and child-support payments being imposed on Turner.  Here’s some analysis of differences between having sex and fathering.

[2] Cases exist in which men have been statutorily raped and still compelled to make sex payments.  See Higdon (2011).

[3] A rational public system for equitably providing financial support to needy children would be much different from what currently is called the child-support system.  The size of child support/sex payments depends primarily on the incomes of the persons who had the relevant reproductive-type sex, not on the child’s needs or needs for funding a system to provide equitable support for needy children. The recipient of the payments has no legal obligation to spend the payment on a child, or a needy child.  No accounting for the spending of the payments is required under law. Freely given love and personal attention to a child are crucial child support much different in kind from periodic financial payments.

[4] For the number of persons receiving payments, see Census Bureau, Child Support: 2007, Detailed Table 4.  For the total amount of payments, see U.S. Office of Child Support Enforcement, FY 2008 Annual Report, Table 1.

[5] Brief for Respondents, Appendices, Turner booking records, pp. 8a-13a.  Id. apparently does not include a booking record for Turner’s sex-payment incarceration in 2010.  Reply Brief of Petitioner, p. 3, n. 1.

[6] Quoted in Brief of Petitioner, p. 14.

[7] In 21 states of the U.S., being incarcerated is no reason for requesting a reduction in a sex-payment orders.  In 11 other states, incarcerated is one factor that would be considered.  See Pearson (2004) p. 6.  Statutorily set interest rates on sex-payment debt were about 10% across U.S. states circa 2000.  In some states additional penalty rates apply for non-payment, e.g. 6% penalty rate in Massachusetts in 2000.  See Thoennes (2002).  After being jailed five times for sex-payment arrears, Turner took up drug dealing to earn money.  He was arrested for drug dealing in 2010 and jailed for three days.  Brief for Respondents, Appendices, pp. 14a-55a.

[8] The public literature contain little such data.  See May and Roulet (2005) p. 9.  Moreover, state justice systems and child support enforcement administrators do not collect such data for their own analysis of their programs.  See Amicus Brief of Senators Demint, Graham, Johanns and Rubio in Support of Respondents, Appendix, Compendium of Responses Collected by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services Office of Child Support Enforcement (December 28, 2010), pp. 1a-14a.

[9] On cases with orders established and cases with arrears due, see U.S. Office of Child Support Enforcement, FY 2008 Annual Report, Table 55 and Table 73 (FY 2008 data).  On debt/income shares, see Understanding Child Support Debt, p. 5.

[10]  For the relevant laws, see Sussman and Mather (2003). For example, in Missouri, non-support is a Class A Misdemeanor with maximum penalty of 1 year imprisonment and/or $1,000.  With elements “(1) fails to pay in 6 out of 12 months or (2) arrears of $5,000 or more”, it’s a Class D Felony with maximum penalty of 5 years imprisonment and/or $5,000.  In fiscal year 2010, Missouri filed at least 6,291 such sex-debt felony charges and at least 3,267 misdemeanor sex-debt charges.  See Missouri data here.  Australia, Austria, and Finland are countries that do not authorize imprisonment for sex-payment debt.  In Denmark, such imprisonment never occurs in practice, and in France, it’s very uncommon.  See Skinner and Davidson (2009) p. 43, Table 8.  In Alberta, Canada, imprisonment for sex-payment debt has risen sharply since 1999.  See Millar (2010), p. 155, Fig. 1.

[11] See May and Roulet (2005) pp. 13-38.

[12]  The best scholarly analysis of the issue is Patterson (2008).  See also ACLU (2010).  Patterson’s survey data on child-support detainees in South Carolina is by far the best quality data on the number of such detainees.  The data for 2009 appear in Amicus Brief for Elizabeth G. Patterson and the South Carolina Appleseed Legal Justice Center in Support of Petitioner, p. 26. The data for 2005 and 2009 are cited as “on file with author” in Patterson (2008) p. 117, n. 156.  I requested that data for analysis.  Patterson, with admirable scholarly ethics, provided it.  For my analysis of the data, see South Carolina child support detainees.

[13] The average number of persons in jail or in prison for sex-payments debts is not the same as the number of persons in jail or in prison who have sex-payment debts.  Since sex-payments obligations accumulate, with interest, even when the obligor is incarcerated, the latter figure is much higher than the former.  Because jail stays average about 25 days, the average number of persons in jail across a year is much smaller than the average number of admissions to jail in a year.  Here’s data and analysis on jail admissions.  The above estimates are for prisoners who would be in jail or in prison for sex-payment debt even if they weren’t also being held for other charges for which the prisoner is being held concurrently.


American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) (2010, October).  In for a Penny: The Rise of America’s New Debtors’ Prisons.

Census Bureau, U.S., Child Support: 2007; Custodial Mothers and Fathers and their Child Support: 2007 [P60-237], and supporting detailed tables.

Department of Health & Human Services, U.S., Office of Child Support Enforcement.  Child Support Enforcement FY 2008 Annual Report to Congress.

Department of Health & Human Services, U.S., Office of Child Support Enforcement.  Understanding Child Support Debt: A Guide to Exploring Child Support Debt in Your State, May, 2004.

Higdon, Michael J., Fatherhood by Conscription: Nonconsensual Insemination and the Duty of Child Support (February 14, 2011). University of Tennessee Legal Studies Research Paper No. 139. Available at SSRN:

May, Rebecca and Marguerite Roulet (2005, January).  Center for Family Policy and Practice.  A Look at Arrests of Low-Income Fathers for Child Support Nonpayment: Enforcement, Court and Program Practices.

Millar, Paul (2010).  “Punishing Our Way Out of Poverty: The Prosecution of Child-Support Debt in Alberta, Canada.”  Canadian Journal of Law and Society, v. 25, n. 2, pp. 149-165.

Patterson, Elizabeth G. (2008). “Civil Contempt and the Indigent Child Support Obligor: The Silent Return of Debtor’s Prison.” Cornell Journal of Law and Public Policy, v. 18, pp. 95-141.

Pearson, Jessica (2004).  “Building Debt While Doing Time: Child Support and Incarceration.” American Bar Association’s Judges’ Journal, v. 43, n. 1, pp. 5-12.

Skinner, Christine, and Jacqueline Davidson (2009).  “Recent Trends in Child Maintenance Schemes in 14 Countries,” International Journal of Law, Policy, and the Family 23, pp. 25-52.

Sussman, Scott, and Corey Mather (2003). Center for Family Policy and Practice. Criminal Statutes for Non-Payment of Child Support.

Thoennes, Nancy (2002, May).  Child Support Profile: Massachusetts Incarcerated and Paroled Parents. Center for Policy Research, Denver CO.

33 thoughts on “incarcerating child-support debtors without the benefit of counsel”

  1. When are we as Americans are going to stand up and fight for what is clearly an unjust law that will soon consume many American men and some women? These laws are put into affect to bring ordinary people (Citizens who have never committed a crime in their entire life), into a system meant to punish true law breaking Americans. the money spent to house a person for pretrial or to place an individual on probation for the so call non support could be used to either help the families in need are provide education or job training to the non custodial parent! But we have yet to wake up and stand up for this GREAT injustice! Again I ask: WHEN ARE WE AS AMERICANS GOING TO STAND UP AND FIGHT FOR A UNJUST LAW??

    1. What about the sorry women that do everything in their power to screw men over and for what to cheat them out of their own children’s lives and take as much of his money as she can possibly get it isn’t right! My husband has always paid more than he can afford because she would throw something out there to make him feel bad like his son needs it more than I do but she has made it impossible for him to ever even lay eyes on his son, she even faked a miscarriage and he didn’t even know he was born until he was almost 4yrs old. So we have struggled because she got a lot of his money. And then to top it off I’m not that messed up my son’s father owes me 18 thousand dollars in arrears and I went to the court and wrote them telling them that I don’t feel that he should be responsible for it as long as he stays current because it’s to hard to survive in the world on a regular pay check let alone a huge debt besides we were young let it go and the court refused to drop his arrears ugh!

  2. I thought being a 34 year old felon liivng with mom and pop was bad go dam just used a 2011 Florida Child Support Calculator child support is crazy if a man is going to give up 50% of his pay and not have access to fair and affordable housing how can he even date.Men are treated lower than shit .I do not feel sorry for men as long as people allow men to be shit on the way they are I hope they get shit on 100 times more they must love it because its unbelievable whats going on I had no idea.

  3. i am a 35 year old man who works for minimum wage at a hotel while pluging my way through college. two days ago i was arrested for fellony child support. do to my not so pleasant past i am a convicted felon. the courts are tring me as an habitual offender which carrys an extra two years in prison. at my arraignment the judge sais i was looking at 6 years in prison. i also have been making my payments the best i can. not to the high extent in which was ordered or id lose my appartment and everything. my gf at the time slpit up when my child was a baby and she started a relationship with the guy she is currently with. my child has been in a two parent household sense she was born. i have a 2 year old that lives with and am the soul financial provider for this child, is this justice???? no its an abomination to our entire species..

    1. I understand your outrage. At a practical level, you should file for a child support modification immediately. If you can’t do that, at least bring the relevant forms with you to prison. Child support accumulates, with interest, while a person is incarcerated. You could easily get mired in child-support debtors’ prison for life. Some related information:

  4. you seem to be a very smart,me not so much, I have been searching for something about child support vs disability.I’m appling for disability n have tried to explain to courts that i cant work n it takes time to get benefits yet i live under the constant threat of jail.I’ve borrowed money n made payments here n there to avoid jail so far but have run outta resources.I’m just hoping u might have some insight of where to turn thank you for ur time my email is {omitted} n live in {omitted} if thats any help

    1. Unfortunately I’m not a lawyer and have no case-specific experience in this area. One thought: I suggest that you apply for a child-support modification order right away. You mention that you’ve tried to explain to courts your financial problem. That’s not necessarily the same as actually filling out the forms for a modification. You need to do that right away if you haven’t already.

      I suggest that you also look for a legal aid society. You definitely need the help of a lawyer.

  5. It is criminal what they are doing to men out there. I too had suffered terribly from “sex-payments” which I made religiously for yrs. Now, I have finally emerged on the other side. I have been to jail, been ridiculed, ostracised, stripped of my career, and earnings in a draconian femistic wave of sweeping legislation which is entirely unfair and biased. God forbid that you should encounter a vindictive women who can receive the money with no accountibility for how it is spent, can dictate the terms of how you should raise your child, rob you of visitation of your child, and ultimately punish you for trying to get on with your life. I may have done things differently, had I known that the enforcement NAZI’s had the ability to do what they can do. All this with a concerted push from this women (who I slept with once, who was trying to get pregnant by her ex, and I stepped up to the plate at the wrong time). Now I was required to be in a long term relationship with her, because this was her dream. Because I could not deal with a liar and manipulator and a dictator, I made my payments and kept my distance. At one point I was in court with two women, my child’s mother and my ex-wife (of two years going after alimony – no kids). I got raped in the court system. I could go on for hours, but will limit it to this analogy: Imagine being punched in the face repeatedly, and each time you are punched, you were required to apologize to the person punching you. Would one find this easy to do?

    1. Physical and psychological torture. But you have endured. I hope that you do not allow yourself to be consumed by justified bitterness. May you still find joy in your life.

      1. Thank you very much, I will not get “eaten up” with bitterness or anger. I am moving on. The one thing that I do find difficult to deal though, is the constant barrage of women pushing for women’s rights, the whole “go girl” babble that you hear being propagted all the time. Many women have this delusional sense of entitlement, that in the event of a relationship breakdown, that they are entitled to not the majority of a man’s earnings (with no accountibilty), but to dictate every aspect of the child’s life to the father. To make him aware that access and visitation are a privalege which they have the right to revoke, and ultimately hold all of these things over his head, should he not be conducting his post-relationship life to what she feels is acceptable. Too often have I seen men (post marital breakdown, which is often initated by the women), trying to forge a new relationship and the very notion infuriating the ex to the point of dragging him legally and financially through the mill. Too many innocent and honest hard-working men, who refuse to be dictated to, by a legal system which clearly has the best interests of the women, not the men or children, in place. The minute a man stands up and says “Hey, this is out of control and entirely unfair, and I am not playing ball any more,” he is crucified and labelled a dead-beat dad. We have surgeons, professionals, religous people , hard working honest labourers and everyday ordinary guys, who are all wearing this label. To me, to hear the term “dead-beat dad” is strictly a feminist term which wrongfully stigmatizes too many good men, and changes the perception of them into criminals. It is rampant, and obviouslyy out of control. There exists far too many cases, for there to be any doubt, that something is drastically wrong. I for one, am not interested in the idea of support groups (those are for women). I believe what we need to do is congregate and have some kind of peaceful revolution. This is how we will affect change.

    2. T-Bone, my story is very similar to yours. I know where you are coming from. The courts are tremendously unfair to men and what goes on is divorce is unconscionable. The answer is for younger men is to not get married. The laws are just too unfair to men if you should get a divorce.

      1. Forgoing marriage is not enough! All the femaleS have to do is point her spinet little finger at the nearest male, and you’re on the hook for 18 sometimes 21 years of mommy support! Even if you never met before in your life! All you can do is completely stay away from the female altogether. End of story. Period.

  6. forgive the grammatical errors, in my re-read I was hasty without proof reading. It is a highly emotional topic . Thank you again.


    This has stayed with me all of these years and it has proven itself to be totally true. It grinds me to the core to hear women moaning and complaining about not getting that which their new “self-entitlement” is not allowing them. I know that there are dead-beats out there, and there always has been and always will be, however what the legal system is doing is forcing men into a position of flight, which any reasonable person would do. If you really look at it, it is reverse discrimination. It is the white anglo saxon adult male, whose head is first on the chopping block, in a time where women’s rights, visible minorities rights, and gay rights are abounding. It is obvious on television, where (save for Charlie Sheen), men are now portrayed as weak, silly, laughable characters, who dare not say anything politically incorrect, or have an opinion or backbone on anything at all. This is not the type of man that I would want any male child to view as a normal adult male.

    Gentleman, we were not put on this planet to be income slaves to a feminist regime, and transparent characters. This all happened in the ancient Roman empire and look where it ended up as a result. Crushed!!!

  8. One more post at the risk of over kill. Why is it that they just assume that the mother is the best place for the child? Would it not make more sense to start to incorporate the idea that either parent is eligible, and if she can’t afford it on her own, give the father the option of raising and paying for his children in his custody. Why not give him that option. I am sure that there are countless children out there who would benefit dramatically, if this was ” on the table.” Certainly there would exist a lot less women, who would be viewing pregnancy as a cash flow windfall.

  9. I want to leave everyone with a thought, if you are being persecuted by the family court systems. Here is a quote:

    “If a law is unjust, a man is not only right to disobey, he is obligated to do so” Thomas Jefferson

  10. Martin Luther King said. ” Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice anywhere” as I fought, bled and died for the civil rights of tens of thousands of black/brown people in this country.

    The very concept and administration of the child support system is but a small, but significant par of the social welfare system, the prison industrial complex and the overall zeitgeist of this countries sociopolitical character, indeed down to the very ‘soul’ of the nation itself. While it seems to be imbued with the most noble of intentions, the supposed welfare of children, the practical end result is actually creating ‘dead-beat dads’ through incarceration, absentee fathers through flight, etc.

    Liberal feminism is indeed a part of the issue, but the deeper problem is the societal basis that created the need for such radical action in the first place. The Western civilization/mindset of which the USA is one of its’ most extreme examples is the substratum,upon which a society which prides itself as being the “the land of the free and the home of the brave” is the same place that is noted for it’s history of chattel slavery, racial genocide and economic inequalities, high prison population, the death penalty, etc.

    That I too am a law-abiding citizen, with no criminal record am threatened with the possibility of incarceration for unpaid child support has nothing to do with the larger issues that I am presenting here. I am only one man, a mere statistic, an insignificant drop in the bucket of the millions of CP cases from the past and into the unforeseeable future.

    But, do you want to know what my real bottomline is here? I could go on to tell you about the details of my circumstances and there would be some who would sympathize with me and there would be those that wouldn’t Yes. I have been treated unfairly. in my opinion. But one persons opinion isn’t worth diddlysquat in the final analysis. If the Family Court finds you to be a NCP regardless as to the realties of your situation don’t feel too bad. You are not alone. I have been deemed the NCP even though we are a married couple living in the same house. I spend more time with my daughter than my wife does now that I have not been able to find good gainful employment. And even though my wife- soon to be ex-wife- works minimum wage job, we share the parenting duties. But the Family Court doesn’t care about any of that. The FC has imposed unfair CP amount on me based on an income that I haven’t had in four years all because I have the ‘ability’ to pay it.

    The bottomline, however is this: If my daughter loves me and sees me as the father who always is there for her, whether financially, emotionally,spiritually that all the really matters to me. Good luck to all those fighting the good fight. I will leave you with another quote

    “Truth crushed to earth shall rise again” William Cullen Bryant

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  12. “The extent of imprisonment for sex-payment debt isn’t a commonly discussed public issue.”

    Maybe not in “public” by the paid hacks at MSM and the
    NYT…but men have eyes. Type MGTOW into youtube or
    google search some time. Men like me may not be on the
    front page of some local fishwraper BUT we tell all young
    men we know to NEVER marry and be very careful around
    ANY female. You are just a wallet or ATM to a women.

  13. I just found your blog and for the past hour, have been reading through various posts of yours. Initially, a google search brought me to your blog when I was researching Mathéolus and his book Lamentations. Your material on female and male sexual appetites and gender inequalities, where you offer up writings that document how men are (and have been) victims of women are fascinating. Especially, since there exist repeatedly throughout history written laws, the first ones dating back to Mesopotamia some 2000 BC that directly and clearly forbad women to speak and express themselves freely. Fathers and husbands had full control over the lives of women and women’s domain was restricted to be the house and household. During the 1960s, I grew up in a country village in Austria and that was still very much the lot of women. My mother had no rights and had to do the bidding of her husband, my father. She was incredibly miserable but so were most women in my village. Men weren’t very happy either but seemed definitely happier than the women. If you would not mind, I’d love to converse with you about these matters since you seemingly have a deep interest in these subjects as well and have access to information I never heard about, nor have been aware of. If you are open for that, I would greatly appreciate it. I think some wonderful dialogue could ensue.

    In response to this particular post, I totally agree with the men who posted and with the poor fellow who is trapped with having to make child support payments for some 18 years. But, hello??????? to all men. Sex does produce babies!!!! According to nature, that’s exactly what sex if for. If men think they can have sexual encounters with women and not get possibly trapped into taking care of the child they might be fathering in the few minutes it takes them to get it off, then they should think again!!!! Women have had to deal with the repercussions of unwanted pregnancies, costly and dangerous abortions and the sole care of children that come out of such liaisons for way too long. Babies cost a lot of money and need to be responsibly cared for 18 years. Therefore, anytime a man has sex with a woman, he needs to be aware of this fact. Men must not assume that women are solely responsible for pregnancy control. Preventing unwanted pregnancies is something every man must be in charge of before he has sex with a woman. Yet, he must also know that every sexual encounter could, indeed, create his off-spring because no method exists that guarantees 100% pregnancy prevention. For that reason, every man must be willing, the moment he has sex with a woman, to be responsible alongside her if he fathers a child. Men must be men enough in such incidences and not just dump the responsibility onto the woman, washing their hands clean and demanding to be free of any consequences.

      1. Thank you for those articles. I totally agree with you, the court system and our culture is set up against men, which is truly terrible. Yet, the point I was trying to make is that we human beings need to start to become actual ADULTS. Then we won’t need laws and courts to tell us how to behave and what to do. Among many other things, being an ADULT means that I know that every single sex act I engage in could possibly produce an off-spring. It’s the sole reason why nature created sex. It’s not for fun. It’s for procreation! We humans have made a sport out of sex where we assume sexual encounters between men and women can happen without repercussions. But that kind of thinking belongs in the kindergarten! Men have to be aware that casual sex with a woman can and might result in pregnancy. To be surprised when it happens is silly. And to want to fight against it is a bit too late. That consideration should have been present before the sexual act. As far as the idea that women get pregnant to milk men is also silly. Maybe within the sphere of the rich and famous. But it’s not going to work out that way for the everyday Mary, Susan and Henrietta. The amount of time, energy, mental, emotional, physical and financial resources it takes to raise a child by yourself for 18 years is beyond comprehension to anyone who hasn’t done it. The amount of money my former husband was ordered via the court to pay did not even come remotely close to what it cost to raise our child. Men who complain about how much money they have to pay for child support should, as an experiment, take care of their child(ren) for several months as a single person. This will give them an idea of how little their money will actually contribute and to what enormous amount his every-day freedom and options in life will be limited, especially until the child(ren) will reach teenage years. The solution to all these problems are not new laws. But for men and women to become actual adults who are willing to take full responsibility for their actions, especially when it comes to having sex with people one does not even know or care about.

      2. Hello? It takes two to make a baby. The responsibility is shared equally. There is no good reason why women shouldn’t be paying child support to men. (But of course that wouldn’t fit your Narcissistic “women are the victims” agenda.)

        The best solution is: 50/50 custody shared equally between parents, and NO child support. The federal government pays a cash incentive to the states for child support enforcement. Thus the primary effect (and purpose) of child support is to force fathers out of the lives of their children. The lack of fathers in the home produces severe psychological damage to children (like Narcissism) that is leading to social disintegration. This cycle will eventually lead to complete social collapse.

        1. Well said! But falling on deaf ears. She’s is, after all, a female and the recipient of all that ‘cash and prizes’.
          Kinda hard to let all that power and money go for the sake of what’s fair…

  14. Child support should just be garnished from the non custodial parents future ssi money without a penalty monthly. Sending guys to jail does what? Nothing the baby momma still don’t get support income. This way if the guys not working the mom or who ever still gets support.

    I pay 801 a month for two girls I have 4 years 7 months left then it’s 400.50 for another 14 months when my youngest is 18. My ex works making 13 hr full time I make like 23 hr full time so I don’t make double her income but once she has that 801 tax free she’s making more than me. I did ok on all of this , I’m saving for a huge down on a house once support is over with. I drive a new sports car that I put 50% down on rent a room so I can save. It’s slow going 7-9 grand a year it’s adding up.

    My ex will have nothing to show for all that tax free money she got from me. I’m much better off now I control my spending and I don’t allow my ex’s addictions to dwindle my account to single digit amounts before the next check comes in.

  15. Hi. Sorry for my joke on the other post. I currently have 90% of my disability take for a child I never knew I had. I live on $300 of social security. My ex from 20 years ago makes $5,000 a month. But she gets $280 a month of my $300, leaving me with $20 a month to support my 5 kids and my wife. They have not arrested me yet, but are threatening to. They said if I need more money, get a part time job for $900 a month. What a specific number. I would if I could! I am disabled. I don’t like living on $20 a month. Because we are so “wealthy” we do not qualify for food stamps or welfare.

  16. Fornication harms men as well as women, children, and society in general. Everyone needs to think before they act, that engaging in the acts by which children are conceived, without the commitment to one another and raising and educating the children, is profoundly unjust.

    I knew one man who, although he often had a job, was homeless for years and years because he was paying child support and could never get ahead enough to get an apartment. He loved his kids. Not a perfect man by any stretch, and some of his problems were from drinking, but it was AWFUL to keep him homeless. How many lesser men pressured the girlfriend to murder the children by abortion? This man acknowledged he’d made mistakes but was not sad nor bitter that his children existed. A true dad. Men who have the ordeal of child support and do their best with it and love their kids deserve some respect, I don’t know enough about policy to know what reforms might be suitable. But the dread of child support shouldn’t be driving abortions.

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